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Travel Plans Changed Again (Am I Indecisive or just Human?)
Y’all probably aren’t going to believe this (or, if you know me, you may), but my major travel plans that start in less than 2 months now have changed again. I’m not bringing a third option to the table though – I’m going back to the original plan.
For over a year now, I have been planning, saving, and working my ass off to head to Southeast Asia for 6-9 months starting this November. As most of you know, this past March, I met Kaleb. We fell in love and at first thought he would go with me, but then certain things fell through. The person we were going to entrust his dog (now our dog) to wasn’t panning out to be the responsible person we thought and we became very nervous about the idea of leaving him behind. The only other option was find him a new home which we didn’t want to do. Kaleb also had an amazing business opportunity fall into his lap. It was something he probably could do remotely from Asia, but he wouldn’t be able to truly give it the chance he wanted.
So, at that point, I went to him and said why don’t we do a US & Canada road trip for the same length of time. This way we can keep the dog, you can be closer in case an emergency comes up with the business and so on. That’s when I announced that Asia had gotten put on hold and this was the plan for the last month or so.
Only problem is, I couldn’t shake Asia from my mind.
This trip, while it might seem silly to some, was something I needed to do. For the past decade, I’ve followed other people all over the place, helping them with their dreams or careers, and slowly losing myself more and more. If I did this again (even though I love Kaleb and want to see him succeed), I would be ignoring my dreams and what I’m passionate about yet again.
I went to Kaleb and was honest with him – telling him that I needed to go to Asia and if I didn’t, I know I would grow to resent the decision not to and I would lose myself again. We both assumed this was it for us though and were starting to accept the idea that we wouldn’t be together – that our lives were taking two very separate paths.
Since we were both assuming the other person wouldn’t be okay with a long distance relationship while I was gone, neither of us even brought up that option at first. I finally did as a last minute, grasping-at-straws idea. My proposal being that I go ahead and go to Asia as originally planned, he will stay and move to Michigan to start the business with his brother, and we get to keep the dog.
As soon as I said this, we both just kinda of looked at each other and you could see the weight being lifted off our shoulders. We’re both 28, not 18. We know how to do deal with loneliness and being away from our partner. It’ll suck, but we both have things we need to do and this is the way to do it without losing one another.
And, since February is his birthday and will most likely be the slowest month for this business, we are planning on him coming to visit for a couple weeks!
So, long story short…I’m still going to Asia in November!
Luckily, I had done so much planning in the beginning and won’t be doing a ton last minute and never canceled my plane ticket, but here’s to less than two months to finish planning, buying things, packing and preparing for what I originally intended to do…a solo trip to Southeast Asia.
Have you ever changed your travel plans, only to change them again? What do you think…am I flaky or is this normal?
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